From the article:
While I did meet my wife a decade ago on Tinder, the app then still functioned as a complement to the dating experience rather than an outright replacement.
Klipper hits it on the head here: the apps have effectively supplanted IRL ask-outs. "Shooting your shot" is relegated to DMs.
Not long ago, a friend of mine asked me to wingman him at a bar. But I had no idea how to. Since I started dating almost a decade ago, I utilized the apps. Being an in-person wingman, though? He might as well have asked me to recite a poem in Mandarin.
The dating apps are the lens that Zoomers see the world through. Instead of using the apps to our advantage, we've effectively handed over the reins; now, we're paralyzed by them.
More from the article:
For those who see nothing but romantic misery in their future, the apps become a crutch, even a coping mechanism. In just a few swipes, you can numb the sting of past rejection by proving that you are still desirable—even if this confidence is short-lived.
As Klipper notes, the constant rejection and ghosting one experiences on these dating apps causes us to feel "damaged." Friends of mine have shared this exact sentiment with me. And I know the feeling quite well myself. It sucks.
Klipper, while acknowledging that his advice is "easier said than done," ends on a sanguine note:
Stop thinking of the apps as a unique torture device designed to inflict as much pain on you as possible, and instead try using them to your advantage as the tool they were meant to be. Cultivate the cool confidence of someone who knows romance always has its ups and downs.
While I agree with the premise here, I'm not sure that re-wiring the way Zoomers approach dating will be all that easy...
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